The ShieldWall Network operates on honor and trust. Deciding you can trust someone isn’t always easy. On one hand, trusting the wrong people can get you killed. On the other hand, if you can’t trust anyone, you’re going to have a hell of a time surviving; like it or not, there will come a time when you’ll need help from your fellow humans. If we’re going to make it, we’re going to have to work together and trust each other.
When it comes to trust, the trust directives between ShieldWall Networkers and the trust between people in other kinds of relationships are very similar in kind and scope.
If you have ever had your world flipped upside down and you don’t know who to trust, here are a few methods you can use in the future to determine if someone is worth your trust.
A trustworthy person doesn’t talk about illegal activities or offer to help you get illegal things.
Trustworthy people are reliable with the little things. Ever been betrayed by someone only to realize how many smaller signs of shadiness you’d already let slide? Turns out, all those white lies—like how much they really spent in Vegas, or why they were always slamming their laptop shut when you came in the room—may very well be signs of bigger trouble down the road. When it comes to trusting others, if someone regularly displays small acts of honesty, he’s likely to be trustworthy with big picture issues as well (and vice versa).
A trustworthy person displays self-control. If someone can’t trust him or herself, it’s going to be nearly impossible for you to trust him. Researchers tested this theory and found that people who display high levels of self-control are perceived as more trustworthy by others – and rightfully so. If someone can’t manage their impulses in a tempting situation, it’s going to be difficult to place your trust in them. Everyone encounters temptation at some point in their lives – and how he or she reacts in those moments is the true test of character.
A trustworthy person is comfortable with compromises. Trust gets built through a series of tiny moments where our partner temporarily compromises their happiness for ours.
A trustworthy person is able to follow directives from the ShieldWall Network coordinator, without shirking their assigned tasks and dropping the ball.
A trustworthy person recognizes that often, other people have good ideas, too, and is willing to work as a part of the ShieldWall Network..
A trustworthy person is dedicated and committed to the common cause of White racial survival; it isn’t just a hobby or an ego trip for them.
A trustworthy person is willing to give of themselves: financially, and temporally, and physically, for the greater good.
This is true in relationships, too. These instances can be as small as asking to hear about our day when they’re tired at the end of their own, or agreeing to eat something for dinner that we like but they aren’t particularly crazy about. When both partners regularly engage in these behaviors, trust begins to build – if we can trust them to put the health of the relationship first on a small scale, we can trust them to do the same on a bigger scale, too.
Actions speak for themselves. When someone is constantly making excuses for their behavior or justifying their actions in retrospect, they are raising a huge red flag. Trustworthy people don’t leave room for explanations or doubts – their actions simply speak for themselves. They do what they say they’ll do, and they explain any misunderstandings or inconsistencies as they arise – not after they’ve been caught red-handed in a lie.
Trustworthy people also trust others. A recent study that examined the behaviors of video game players found that those who were comfortable relying on and cooperating with other players were less likely to betray their partners in the game. Trustworthy people understand that trust is a two-way street – they give it out and they expect it back in turn. The more suspicious someone is of others’ intentions, the more likely it is that they’re the one who can’t be trusted!
Finally, do you trust them? Perhaps the most paradoxical component of building trust is that someone’s trustworthiness is partially reliant on your trust in him or her. It’s been suggested that someone is more likely to behave in a trustworthy manner if they feel as though they are trusted.
Trust is, in many ways, a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The best way to discover if you can trust someone is to trust him or her. It will not only make you come off as a more trustworthy person, but it may make them into one.
Always Safe, Always Prepared
Paraphrased for The ShieldWall Network from Frank Mitchell